Don’t Let Fears Stop You

Just as we set our aims and goals, we set our own limitations.  Consciously or unconsciously we allow fears to stop us doing many things. 

Sometimes we have deep desires to expand our wings, but fear of doing so, can makes us keep our wings closed.  Often it is the fear of the unknown or of risk that stops us from chasing our dreams.  These fears make us stay within the confines of our comfort zone, stopping us from venturing out and experimenting in the search of new pastures. 

Fear can paralyse us and lead to a life full of regrets of what we would have like to have done or tried.  Instead of fearing, we should learn to embrace a challenge, change and look forward to trying things we fear…we may be pleasantly surprised.  I have met so many people who have limited their life experiences just because of fear.  I am not talking about fear of doing something like bungee jumping or paragliding, these can be good experiences, but feel they are to be enjoyed by those who want to enjoy it and not necessary. I am talking about fear of life-changing matters, such as changing jobs, cities, countries or getting in or out of a relationship.  We fear that we may get hurt, that we may not like it, fear it simply for being different to what we are used to.  These fears seriously limit our life and our growth, because change is always growth, for better or for worse.

So, the next time you realise that fulfilling your dreams has to involve losing your fears, let go of them. Instead of fearing, look forward, focus on being happy and trust that the universe is always on your side. Know that if you don’t like what you do when you do it, you can always change it again.  Don’t fear pain, don’t fear the unknown, embrace it as a gift for living new experiences, learning and being closer to fulfilling your dreams.

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Everyone Can Be A Successful Human Being

At the end of the day, what really matters in life is the joy and love you give and receive.  Material goods and successful careers can be rewarding, but will never be as rewarding as a life filled with happy personal moments and relationships.  I don’t quite understand why success is normally only measured by professional or monetary achievements.

We are all born into different circumstances and are given different opportunities, but one thing we can all be sure of really influencing is the quality of our life on a human level.  We can all choose to be loving, giving and caring. We can also choose to see the positive side of things, look for the good in everyone and everything, strive for peace and be compassionate.

Success on a human level is far more important than success on a monetary or status level. I believe the real essence of success lies in developing on a spiritual, emotional level. Understanding that we are all one, caring for others, being helpful, kind and loving is succeeding in comprehending the meaning of life.   A person may have all the professional success in the world with all the trappings that come with it, but if his personal life is empty, he will never be really happy or complete as a person. On the other hand, someone without a successful career, but with lots of loving relationships could well be very happy…and that is true success

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The Grass Isn’t Always Greener On The Other Side

People often don’t enjoy what they have; constantly wishing they had something else.  It is of course, wonderful to dream and have goals, but we must always remember to appreciate and value the things do have.

Many people lament their lives, feeling unhappy with their lot and dreaming of greener pastures. However, things are not always greener on the other side.  We may see people with a different life, living in abundance, in a body and lifestyle we dream of and lose sight of what makes our life valuable.  We also may never question how fantastic their lives actually are. People who seem to have the perfect life to the outside world, may well have inner turmoil, unhappy relationships or other problems.  They may not even have a great personality and inner richness is priceless and far more important than outer richness.

Many dream of stardom, but when we take a close look at the rich and famous, we can see that they often have shattered relationships and are deeply miserable.  We may have a humbler life, less material goods or physical beauty than those we think live on greener grass, but these people may well be wishing they had our lives.  Being healthy and at ease with yourself, having loving relationships and having financial security without living in luxury is all anyone can really wish for.  The grass we believe to be greener, may well be lacking nourishment, love and peace.  So next time we think everything is better and brighter on the other side, we should be grateful for what we have and who we are and love the grass we live on and make it even greener.

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Friends

They say there are friends for a reason, friends for a season and friends for a lifetime. 

It is said that everybody we come into contact with is for a reason. We may either learn from them or have something to teach them. So friends for a reason have a have entered our lives at a particular time for a specific purpose.   Friends for a season are those that walk by our sides for a certain period of time. They form part of a chapter of our lives and once that chapter has been closed, the friendship will also have come to a natural end.  We all evolve constantly, altering our lifestyles and interests, sometimes changing cities or even countries.  All of these changes may have a weakening effect on a bond created with certain friends.  This is a natural progression and we should accept when a friendship has drifted apart or ended naturally.     

Friends for a lifetime are those we have known for years, those that have been there for us in your darkest hours and maintained the friendship throughout many changes, moves and chapters in our lives.  These kinds of friends are very special indeed and are few and far between. They love us with our flaws and imperfections and even when we make mistakes. These friends over time feel like family and we always feel comfortable with them, in spite of distances or times apart.

All types of friends are a gift to be cherished and nourished as lovingly and as often as possible.  They give us joy, love and understanding, make us learn, listen to our sorrows, give us advice and a helping hand.  What would we be if we didn't have our wonderful friends to confide in? They are an oasis of peace, love and trust in a sometimes hostile world. They should never be undervalued, as they are essential for our growth and feeling complete, no matter how good our relationships may be with our partners or families.

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Be Immune To Negative Criticism

There is positive, constructive criticism and there is negative, destructive criticism. 

We have to learn not to let the negative criticism affect how we feel about ourselves. When people make a negative remark about an aspect of our personality or appearance, we can begin to focus on it to a point of developing a complex.  We may never have even noticed it before or given it any importance and then suddenly allow one comment to change our opinion of ourselves.

When faced with such a situation, we must remember to think that we were perfectly happy with ourselves until that remark was made.  It is important to disassociate ourselves from this criticism and not take it to heart.  It is only one person's observation and it may even be true, but if we were content with ourselves beforehand, why should we let this change our healthy relationship with ourselves?

On the other hand, we should also remember what effect our words can have on someone and think before we say anything.  We are all less than perfect and if you are about to remark on something about somebody, think whether it is really necessary and if it’s not for their own good, keep your opinion to yourself, as it may  seriously harm their self esteem.

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Let Go of Negative Emotions

Following on from my last post, which was about getting rid of unnecessary things, I want to write about getting rid of unnecessary emotions.

Just as we have to clear our wardrobes and house from clutter and ‘blocking’ energy, we have to clear our souls. Bad experiences, negative people and sadness can fill us with negative vibes and emotions. We should purify ourselves by counter-acting this negativity with positivity and letting go of the bad, making space for the good. Let anger, fear, hostility and other negative feelings be passing ones. No beauty can ever grow on a bad ground, so don’t dwell on the negative happenings. In order to grow as a person, be happy and create a peaceful world, we have to create a healthy, positive environment within ourselves.

Learn to accept the bad, as it is part of life, but don’t let it become part of your being. It is a moment in time, something to be learnt from and released. Exhale darkness, inhale brightness and you will live in a happier place, ready to blossom.

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Get Rid of The Unnecessary

Once or twice a year, I do a general ‘clear out’, a spring cleaning of unnecessary things.

I fill bags with clothes and shoes and give them to charity. Next I go through all my papers and throw the unnecessary ones away.Once I’ve done these things, I am left with a sense of relief and lightness.

It is so easy to accumulate things and end up with clutter and things we no longer use, which someone else may need. I believe in renewing energies, getting rid of the superfluous, detaching yourself from the material. I can understand certain things having some sentimental value, but we can’t attach importance to all material things. I know people who find it hard to get rid of things they haven’t used in years, just because they are in some way attached to them. I’m a bit more radical and don’t keep many things I haven’t used or worn in over a year, because to me that is a clear enough sign that I probably will never use them again. By clearing your wardrobe, you are not only helping charities, but you are clearing the energy in your house and creating a vacuum for the new. Clutter can create an uneasy mind (it certainly has that effect on me) and by hanging on to the old, you are not allowing the new to enter. Renewing some items every season can also make you feel renewed, invigorated and refreshed!!

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